How Do You Expect To Transform Your Body When You Are Not Transforming Your Actions?
by Scott Tousignant · Filed Under: Motivation
Today you are going to go on a little adventure into the future. This is part one in a series designed to break you free from the vicious weight loss cycle and experience the complete body and life transformation that you truly deserve. But first, a blast from the past…
At the beginning of the year you stated that “This is going to be the year where I finally transform my body and health.” What kind of progress have you made toward achieving that goal? What changes did you make in order to bring you closer to achieving this body transformation? Were you able to stick with it? What have you learned from this experience?
Take a moment to share your answers to those questions in the comment box below. You’ll definitely benefit from it and your answers may have a positive impact on your fellow fat loss quickie friends.
Now it’s time for you to look into the future. If you continue to do what you have been doing what is your body going to look like this upcoming beach season?
If your nutrition stays the same what will your body look like this upcoming swimsuit season?
If you continue to exercise in the same way with the same frequency and intensity how will your body look when you are lounging around the pools?
If you continue to take the same approach as you usually do when you get pumped up about transforming your body what will your physique look like as the weather warms up?
If nothing changes between now and the time swim suit season arrives how will it effect you emotionally?
I want you to be honest with us and yourself here. Don’t be shy about revealing your answers to these very personal questions. I can guarantee that everyone reading this post will have experienced similar emotions and feelings as you and their answers will be very similar in nature. You’re not alone. We’re in this together.
It’s just as tough for me to share my personal experiences and emotions, but I’m going to go ahead and do it anyway. There were a couple summers when I was carrying around an extra 35-45 pounds of unwanted and disgusting body fat. I was already an emotional wreck as I was dealing with depression and feelings of failure. I’ll never forget the feelings and emotions that I experienced during the second summer where I told myself I would finally get back in shape only to fall way short of achieving that goal.
I was disgusted with myself. I knew better. I was ashamed. My confidence was at an all time low. I wore a shirt nearly all the time which made things worse for me emotionally because it reminded me of my failure to reach my goal. I really wanted to experience the confidence of being shirtless around the pools and beaches knowing that I had a lean and sexy physique. I was embarrassed at how I had let myself go and how I struggled to get back in shape even though I had all the necessary tools, education, and experience to transform my physique into something beautiful and amazing.
I don’t like to bring this up because I know that my parents read my blog and one day my kids may read this and get grossed out 
but I’m going to go ahead and do it anyway. During that time where I carried around a spare tire and sported those oh so un-flattering love handles, my sex life took a nose dive. The interesting thing is that it wasn’t because Angie was no longer attracted to me. She totally was. This was all my fault because I felt unattractive and not sexy at all. I was embarrassed about my appearance and it was even worse when I was naked. How do you think this affected our relationship?
I now realize how selfish I was during this time. How unfair I was to Angie. I realize the impact that my thoughts and actions were having on everyone around me. The choices that we make certainly have a ripple effect.
Why, with all the education and experience was I not able to follow through and transform my body during that second summer? The answer is actually really simple… I repeated what I had done the previous summer when I ‘failed’ to follow through…
Albert Einstein defines insanity as, “Doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results.”
Yes I was insane and like I said, I knew better. For some reason my judgment was clouded. I guess that I wanted it so bad that I just dove right in without making a plan and applying everything that I had learned and experienced in regards to fat loss.
I shared my personal story for a few reasons…
Angie and I refuse to allow you to go another swim suit season without you looking and feeling your absolute best! We are 100% committed to your success! We hope that our openness with our thoughts and feeling will inspire you to be open with your thoughts and feelings and use those emotions to push forward in achieving your goals.
This is your opportunity to experience some emotional pain associated with continuing to repeat the unsuccessful strategies that you have been applying, while at the same time making positive change toward finally achieving the body and life that you deserve.
I want it to be crystal clear that Angie and I are not perfect. We’re not genetic freaks. We experience ups and downs just like everyone else. We are impacted by weight gain emotionally just like you.
As scary as it is to share your emotions with online friends most of whom you have not met, it’s incredibly liberating at the same time and it sparks an intense drive to move forward.
I know what it feels like to cover up your body and attempt to hide the body fat on your trouble spots. I don’t want you to go through this experience again.
Angie and I would sincerely appreciate to hear your responses to the questions that I have offered you in this post. It would mean the world to us and your fellow Fat Loss Quickie friends. It’s also a very important step toward achieving the body that you deserve.
Step outside of your comfort zone and share your feelings and emotions with us. It’s absolutely worth it.
What will your summer be like if you don’t change? Will you be covering up or feeling proud to show it off?
Keeping it real,
Scott Tousignant
Scott…your right. I do this every summer and I have gotten a little bit closer this year to my goal. But I know I still need to make some changes or it will be the same thing. And I honestly am not sure what else to do. I am guessing diet but am not sure. You hit the nail on the head when the depression hits beofre the summer and I still need to lose 30 lbs. Thanks for the post.
Hi Scott & Angie,
My struggle started in early 40’s now Iam 51 and refuse to give up on getting back to my slim self. the way I am looking at it, is I now have 10 years experience in diet & excercise it should be very useful to me with your program in place it should be win – win.
Part of the struggle is not just calories but the liquid calories from alcoholic beverages. I always saw better results when I cut back or abstained altogether, but another drink was just another event away. It seems to really effect my motabolism at this age. So at the beginning of the year I quit drinking alcohol & have followed your prgram, with the exception of a couple of weeks interuption from some work related projects.
I think I have tried just about everything over the last 12 years. some things more successful than others. Your program seems to put it all together – it’s all the good stuff – at last something I can believe in.
I have had your program on track since early Jan.2010; So far I have dropped off 12.5 pounds of fat. I haven’t taken any measurements yet but the clothes that were way too tight are finally getting loose.
My husband & I started the 23 days from The Fat Burning Kitchen March 1/10
I beleive we are well on our way to a healthier future. So this summer on my 52nd Birthday in August I am looking forward to being the 52 nd year old slim one.
Thanks for the emails.
Regards,
Cathy H.
I’m so sick of not achieving the success I want! I’ve attended a First place 4 health class and this is week 5 with no loss yet! I know what to do and one week I loose the next week I put it back on. I have books, DVDs, equipment, just don’t seem to be able to stay committed. My intention needs to be increased.
Help!
Hi Scott and Angie,
You hadn’t even asked and I was already writing down my answers, I just love posting comments and getting feedback, it helps me a lot. Here I go:
What kind of progress have you made toward achieving your goal?
I have lost 10.8 pounds in eight weeks. I have reduced measurements all over my body, I have developed a joy for exercise and clean eating and I have found new beliefs on fatloss and achieving results.
What changes did you make in order to bring you closer to achieving this body transformation?
I workout at least 6 days a week. Now I eat smaller portions and I have eliminated a lot of processed foods from my diet. I do not feel the need to binge anymore and I don’t punish myself for indulging in a treat or missing a workout. Unintentionally the only liquid calories I ingest come from skim milk, I drink a lot of water.
Were you able to stick with it?
I have been able o stick mith my programme because I am not competing or comparing myself with anyone. I have challenged my previous limiting beliefs and now I know I can achieve whatever I set my mind to and I take it one small step at a time. I am not working for perfection, I am working for excellence and being better everyday, finding the better version of myself.
What have you learned from this experience?
I have learned that the small things we do are the difference, the results add up with time and persistence. No drastic measures are needed to get awesome results. I have learned that what is produced in our industrialized world is not necesarily for our best interest. I have learned that I can have a positive impact on people and that my decisions today will manifest in my reality tomomrrow.
If your nutrition stays the same what will your body look like this upcoming swimsuit season?
I will definitely have a leaner body. By the swimsuit season I’ll be able to show some muscle definition. I still have a lot of work to be done to be bikini ready but I will look better than today and even better than last year. I will look good and I will feel comfortable and extatic in my swimsuit. Coincidentally I tried it on today and it looks better than when I bought it and at that time I didn’t feel like wearing it, it felt more like a waste of money. That feeling is long gone and by the swimsuit season it will be something to make me stronger in my journey to the body of my dreams.
If you continue to exercise in the same way with the same frequency and intensity how will your body look when you are lounging around the pools?
My body will look toned and slender, with freedom of movement and energized. My legs will look toned and clear from cellulite, long and wonderful.
If you continue to take the same approach as you usually do when you get pumped up about transforming your body what will your physique look like as the weather warms up?
As the weather warms up I will be able to wear sleevless tops with pride and joy, no more flaps. I will have a beautiful silhouette to show and it will be free from fat rolls. I’ll finally be able to wear skirts and shorts with confidence.
If nothing changes between now and the time swim suit season arrives how will it effect you emotionally?
For me, nothing changing is not an option. right now I am inspired, energized and unstoppable. I have been like this for the past 8 weeks and will continue until I have reached my goal. Then, I’ll be ready to change gears and settle a new healthy lifestyle for good.
Now, I understand the exercise, what will happen to me emotionally if things don’t change, let’s connect with some pain. I have been there, far too many times for my taste. I suffer from information overload. I can explain a lot of things and I used to, but I dislike incoherences so I stopped giving nutrition advice on a fat body. If nothing changes then I could go back to emotionall eating again, and be back at an overweight body in no time. I don’t feel like exploring the possibility of failure, but I can tell you how I felt when I was borderline obese. There were no smiles back at me when I looked in the mirror, I simply hated the image. I dreaded getting dressed for work. I knew the clothes didn’t fit and I have never liked spending money on bigger clothes because when I do, I get comfortable in them and balloon up until I overfill them again. I have felt disgusted by the looks of my naked body, talk about a turn off! I wouldn’t consider the impact of feeling so low on my loved ones. I have felt a mix of emotions while bingeing, it tastes so good, so delicious but once you swallow the guilt hits you right in the gut, kind of a really heavy weight falling into your stomach along with the food.
I have felt ashamed for slimming down, then gaining again, and on, and on. I’ve seen the dissapointed looks of my family and friends, they don’t say any discouraging words, I just know I’ve dissapointed them, but above all, I have dissapointed myself far too many times. I have been a winner in my mind but have failed to accomplish and fulfill my dreams.
This time I am more prepared. I have touched my emotions and feelings. I have found the right motivations I have become better, I have hit rock bottom and understood that it wasn’t necesary. I am ready to unleash the power within my determination and to uncover the true me.
Thank you Scott and Angie, you have been true blessings.
Vania
Hi Scott
Thank you for your very inspiring message.
Here in South Africa we are going into our colder season so I have just spent my summer all covered up because I was too embarrased to bare too much flesh!
My year has started off really good, training wise. I have been diligently training 5 days a week at the gym first thing in the morning. I train with a couple of friends and we motivate each other and have great fun while working hard. We do a varied workout and change it each day so that each day it’s different and keeps us interested and focused and I can slowly see the results and get excited when I receive compliments which is a huge motivating factor.
However I know and understand that I need to get my eating habits in check as well and this for me is the biggest challenge. I am on the road all day and yes in theory I should prepare my meals the night before and keep a cooler bag in my car with the right snacks etc (see I also know all the stuff to get it right;-)) but this is still a problem for me. I am an emotional eater and doesn’t matter whether I am happy, sad, frustrated or elated, I eat, and I eat what is the most convenient. I have and still am searching for an eating plan that is quick, simple and effective as I don’t have the time to prepare smoothies and cooked meals for the day and this simply leads to frustration and more emotional eating.
I used to think that it would be okay to have a McDonalds meal every now and then cos I would just work it off at the gym, but after almost 7 months of correct training I am not that much thinner, though I am fitter and have more definition etc etc.
So my challenge is to get my eating right. So thank you for your Fat Loss Quickie today, I have approximately 8 months before my swim suit season starts again and I will be using your advise and tips to ensure that by the end of this year I am sitting by the pool in my bikini and proud to show off my sexy ass;-)
Here’s to a fantastic, and fat free rest of my life!!!
Hi there,
I’m so pleased with my progress so far, even though I have a long way to go both in losing weight and getting fit and in changing the habits and actions that are necessary to do that.
I’ve been working the program for five weeks now, although one of those weeks was more or less lost, for lots of reasons, so four good weeks of work. I’ve done pretty well keeping up with the weight training sessions, but not the cardio workouts. I’ve lost about 10 pounds, which is great!, I’m down to my pre-pregnancy weight, but I know I could’ve lost more if I’d done the cardio more consistently. I definitely notice significant changes in my body, though. The shape and strength are definitely better, especially around my waist and hips which tickles me to no end. I notice that I can carry my extremely wiggly 10 month old around for longer with less effort, not as long as I’d like yet, but every day brings an improvement.
I can’t say I enjoy working out, much less getting up early enough to get it done, but I definitely enjoy the feeling I have afterwards, so I come as close to looking forward to it as can be without actually looking forward to it.
I’m still surprised at the amount of weight I need to actually be challenged. I got myself some 10 lb weights yesterday, double what I had, and I will have outgrown them within a week or two.
I am doing MUCH better with my nutrition than I have been. I’ve almost entirely cut out fast food, with an exception maybe 3 times over the last month for cheat meals or necessary convenience. Mostly, I’m fixing a good dinner with lots of vegetables, have leftovers for lunch and eat fruit and cottage cheese or oatmeal for breakfast. The biggest point is that I make my meal decisions consciously. My choices are deliberate, so even when I eat some junk, it’s because I considered it and decided specifically to eat it. That makes a big difference. I have learned that I have to have a menu to make it work. I have to decide what I’m going to fix each night, somewhat roughly, I can write down chicken on Monday and decide Monday how exactly I’m going to cook it, but knowing that it’ll be chicken and knowing what veggies I’m going to have with it makes it very easy. I’m eating so much delicious food and finding ways to cook vegetables in ways that I enjoy things I didn’t used to. I also try to experiment with a new veggie a couple of times a week. I can’t wait to put my vegetable garden in the ground and look forward to my own fresh, home-grown food this summer. It doesn’t get any better than that.
I’ve had so many moments in the past that were very painful and brought to my attention how badly I needed to lose weight, but as to why now is the time, I couldn’t say. Other than there are just a lot of self-determination changes are going on with me right now. Last summer, my family went to visit my inlaws. I found out that my sister in law and my future sister in law combined only outweighed me by 15 pounds. When I hit 200# while I was pregnant was a real eye opener, too, and I was grateful that it was pregnancy weight that mostly came off by itself after my daughter was born. And like you Scott, my love life has been in the toilet for a long time and a large contributing factor to that is that I feel gross and unsexy. This is changing and I’m looking forward to the future. I may not yet appear in public in a bathing suit this summer, but I don’t think shorts are going to be as emotional a challenge, and next year, for sure, look out world, I’m gonna be Smokin’ Hot!
I appreciate your help, Scott. I may not be really visible around here, but I’m making the effort, feeling the joy and meeting my goals with your support and encouragement. I’m grateful for you and everyone else who is working hard and sharing themselves here.
About a year ago i was doing great, going to the gym regulary, doing exercises that gave results, and had gotten into a good routine knowing what food was good for me… But some months ago i moved to a different country (UK, wich have way more unhealthy food than i’m used to from my home country Norway) and it all just fell apart. With a lot of new things going on i didnt feel i had time to look for a new gym to go to. And i found it really hard to get used to all the new shops with groceries i wasn’t used to from home. So for the last 5-6 months i have gained way too many kilos. I find it really hard to get motivated now, because i keep thinking that there isnt enough time to get in shape for summer anyway, and that makes me really depressed, wich again makes it even harder to get motivated…sigh